Friday, June 8, 2012
It's ok!
With all the media attention and hooplah on what's ok and what's not ok with breast feeding, organic, discipline, here is my two cents:
It's ok to feed your children whatever you have access to.
It's ok to buy your produce from grocery outlet bargain market.
It's ok to give your baby formula if you need to.
It's ok to feed your baby by the breast! I don't want to see your nipple, so I'll chose
Not to look.
It's ok to drink a soda
It's ok to discipline your child.
It's ok and important to vaccinate your children. If you don't want to, at least do actual research
On the views you've heard. Don't take others word for it. Research is good!
It's ok to have your own preferences.
It's ok for others to have different preferences.
It's ok to do things different than everyone else.
It's only neccessary that you LOVE your children.
Do what is best and good for them that is in your power.
Feed your children!
Keep them safe and protect them!
There is more than one way to raise a family. Respect others for not doing it
Your way as long as they're children are loved, fed and safe.
When I was on welfare, Kaytlin was very small. We would stand at the food bank, waiting our turn.
There was no organic option. You got what they had. Which was Mac n cheese, breads, Peter pan peanut butter, very ripe fruit from albertsons, and some very interesting options.
With food stamps in hand at the grocery market, every penny mattered, so cheapest won. That's soups, cheese, eggs, milk, cereal, canned veggies and fruit
With both my children, I breast fed as long as they would let me. Kaytlin refused the Breast at 4 months- and
Jonah refused at 5 months- I went to bottle feeding them both formula.
I don't give my children soda when they're little
I love my family, I will feed them what is available, affordable and healthy. If that's
An organic option, great! If its the Safeway brand deal- yay!
When the media and people say "this is the best way" you are disrespecting others who don't have that choice, or who disagree. You have every right to say "this is what I do"
In the end however, Remember,
It's ok!
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
dreams
Matt and I were talking about one of his wants in the near future..(remodeling garage for his studio, to put his DJ equip in (turning the two car into a one car) Since the current room must now be a baby room, and it came up about my wants.. I have them, just havent thought about them in a while..
I've put them on the back burner or have had them seem unreachable for so long that I sometimes forget... So I wanted to just write them down. To remind myself that they can be my dreams regardless if I ever actually get to do them or not.
Alot of things come first, I've always believed this, mainly because God has given me other responsibilities that must be met first. Its the order of being an adult, and Parent. Being a parent from when I was 23 means I started that responsibility earlier than some, and unlike other parents, I took that responsibility seriously. plus I tend to put my families needs above my own.. as that is just who I am..
So here is my list of what I've dreamed of. What I want. My secret little goals that sit in my head:
1) I worked so hard to lose my weight the first time... and I WILL do it again after this baby is born.. however, what I know will happen will be the excess skin. It was so hard to have see this baggy saggy skin on my thighs, my arms and my stomach after working so hard.. yes I was small, but the droopy skin was a constant reminder of my struggle and a constant reminder that I was huge at one point. it made me self conscious and not as beautiful as other women. I still had a hard time feeling successful at my weight loss because of it... SO this time around.. when the weight comes off again I already know my skin will be the same.. My dream then and still is to have the surgery to remove it. This is a HUGE dream for me. I cried many nights wishing I could have this done. (Money is the problem here, we're talking around 7k)
2) Since I was a teenager, I LOVED massage therapy. I loved that I could help someone else with touch. I truly believe in touch therapy and have watched it work miracles in other peoples lives. I have always enjoyed giving to others and have been that sounding board all my life. This dream I have had the longest. To go to Massage school, get my LMP license and start my own business. ( $$ and time have gotten in the way!)
3) My third dream is one that I've kinda known all my life.. just didnt know how to make that happen w/ a child and single income. I didnt know where to go and how to get help.. now.. i feel like its too late. Time, money, mortgage that needs two incomes.. blah blah.. anyhow.. my third dream is to go to school and get my counseling degree. I Love listening and helping and being there for other people, this would be a Job I would LOVE.. instead of the job i have to just get by with. ( again, money and time and work get in the way)
4) This is a silly dream, but a dream nonetheless. Its actually something that means a GREAT deal to me. its a functional kitchen. I love to cook and am at home in a kitchen. Having a nice spacious working kitchen would feel so nice! I want to do what makes me happy and cooking gives me that. Right now, our kitchen is small, unfunctional, with poor layout, poor space, poor storage, poor counters, terrible cupboards that I cant reach because they are too high.. just all and all a crappy kitchen. This dream will come true I think.. if we can ever afford the remodel.. kitchens are pricey!
5) For all who know me.. Im a bathroom girl too.. I love my baths.. Relaxation and meditation mean ALOT to me. I NEED them. I relax and meditate in water.. its what centers me. Having a bathroom that speaks this level is so important.. its hard to relax and meditate when you can see the gross mold on the window.. or the bathtub is a cheap piece of shit and can barely hold enough water to cover your lap. the walls are ugly and the man who put the towel racks in didnt anchor them so they've all ripped from the wall. This is a dream I can make come true i think as well.. I've just got to save some money for paint, a new bathtub with JETS! and new wall mounts/shelving. A new toilet would be good too, because ew.. this one is old.
6) since im on the path of remodeling.. the bedroom is my next dream :) man oh man would I like a nice new vanity and flooring.. the current is so bad its disgusting! may be reachable.. but its a money thing.
7) my daughter is coming into the age where I need to prepare!!! My next dream and HOPE is that I will find the money to send her to college.. NO MATTER WHAT! I will sell my kidney if needed.. that girl WILL have opportunities!!!!! This is a dream.. because right now, it feels unreachable.
8) another dream is to just enjoy life.. its hard to enjoy all parts when its just work, work ,work (at a job you dont really care for), come home, cook, go to bed. repeat. ... There HAS to be more.. this feels so mundane and repetitive and lonely that it drives me crazy. I then just bug everyone else, because I come home and want to talk, Play, visit and shake that repetitiveness off.. which not everyone wants to do..I really miss my family when im at work, I just think of all the mess at home I need to get done.. clean, prepare dinner, and spend time with Matt and kaytlin when they get home...I know thats very old school mentality as it seams everyone else just wants to be left alone..but its there.. Im a domestic at heart. This is a dream that just is what it is.
9) and 10) are very private and personal dreams that I can not share.. they are for me and me alone..they are both unreachable.
To those that think it would be so simple to accomplish these.. I'd love to hear how.. the money part I talk about is that these all take a large sum of money.. We dont have it. Period. even with two full incomes.. this is a hardship. For a few of these.. time is also needed.. I mean.. it would require me to work part time..PLUS money.. this is not possible. Period. We can not afford it. and just as before, we are going to be parents.. and that is a responsibility that trumps all else.. as God has put this before us and He says this is our journey now.
I'm ok if my wants never make it to fruition.. JEHOVAH-JIREH ( The Lord will provide)
I've put them on the back burner or have had them seem unreachable for so long that I sometimes forget... So I wanted to just write them down. To remind myself that they can be my dreams regardless if I ever actually get to do them or not.
Alot of things come first, I've always believed this, mainly because God has given me other responsibilities that must be met first. Its the order of being an adult, and Parent. Being a parent from when I was 23 means I started that responsibility earlier than some, and unlike other parents, I took that responsibility seriously. plus I tend to put my families needs above my own.. as that is just who I am..
So here is my list of what I've dreamed of. What I want. My secret little goals that sit in my head:
1) I worked so hard to lose my weight the first time... and I WILL do it again after this baby is born.. however, what I know will happen will be the excess skin. It was so hard to have see this baggy saggy skin on my thighs, my arms and my stomach after working so hard.. yes I was small, but the droopy skin was a constant reminder of my struggle and a constant reminder that I was huge at one point. it made me self conscious and not as beautiful as other women. I still had a hard time feeling successful at my weight loss because of it... SO this time around.. when the weight comes off again I already know my skin will be the same.. My dream then and still is to have the surgery to remove it. This is a HUGE dream for me. I cried many nights wishing I could have this done. (Money is the problem here, we're talking around 7k)
2) Since I was a teenager, I LOVED massage therapy. I loved that I could help someone else with touch. I truly believe in touch therapy and have watched it work miracles in other peoples lives. I have always enjoyed giving to others and have been that sounding board all my life. This dream I have had the longest. To go to Massage school, get my LMP license and start my own business. ( $$ and time have gotten in the way!)
3) My third dream is one that I've kinda known all my life.. just didnt know how to make that happen w/ a child and single income. I didnt know where to go and how to get help.. now.. i feel like its too late. Time, money, mortgage that needs two incomes.. blah blah.. anyhow.. my third dream is to go to school and get my counseling degree. I Love listening and helping and being there for other people, this would be a Job I would LOVE.. instead of the job i have to just get by with. ( again, money and time and work get in the way)
4) This is a silly dream, but a dream nonetheless. Its actually something that means a GREAT deal to me. its a functional kitchen. I love to cook and am at home in a kitchen. Having a nice spacious working kitchen would feel so nice! I want to do what makes me happy and cooking gives me that. Right now, our kitchen is small, unfunctional, with poor layout, poor space, poor storage, poor counters, terrible cupboards that I cant reach because they are too high.. just all and all a crappy kitchen. This dream will come true I think.. if we can ever afford the remodel.. kitchens are pricey!
5) For all who know me.. Im a bathroom girl too.. I love my baths.. Relaxation and meditation mean ALOT to me. I NEED them. I relax and meditate in water.. its what centers me. Having a bathroom that speaks this level is so important.. its hard to relax and meditate when you can see the gross mold on the window.. or the bathtub is a cheap piece of shit and can barely hold enough water to cover your lap. the walls are ugly and the man who put the towel racks in didnt anchor them so they've all ripped from the wall. This is a dream I can make come true i think as well.. I've just got to save some money for paint, a new bathtub with JETS! and new wall mounts/shelving. A new toilet would be good too, because ew.. this one is old.
6) since im on the path of remodeling.. the bedroom is my next dream :) man oh man would I like a nice new vanity and flooring.. the current is so bad its disgusting! may be reachable.. but its a money thing.
7) my daughter is coming into the age where I need to prepare!!! My next dream and HOPE is that I will find the money to send her to college.. NO MATTER WHAT! I will sell my kidney if needed.. that girl WILL have opportunities!!!!! This is a dream.. because right now, it feels unreachable.
8) another dream is to just enjoy life.. its hard to enjoy all parts when its just work, work ,work (at a job you dont really care for), come home, cook, go to bed. repeat. ... There HAS to be more.. this feels so mundane and repetitive and lonely that it drives me crazy. I then just bug everyone else, because I come home and want to talk, Play, visit and shake that repetitiveness off.. which not everyone wants to do..I really miss my family when im at work, I just think of all the mess at home I need to get done.. clean, prepare dinner, and spend time with Matt and kaytlin when they get home...I know thats very old school mentality as it seams everyone else just wants to be left alone..but its there.. Im a domestic at heart. This is a dream that just is what it is.
9) and 10) are very private and personal dreams that I can not share.. they are for me and me alone..they are both unreachable.
To those that think it would be so simple to accomplish these.. I'd love to hear how.. the money part I talk about is that these all take a large sum of money.. We dont have it. Period. even with two full incomes.. this is a hardship. For a few of these.. time is also needed.. I mean.. it would require me to work part time..PLUS money.. this is not possible. Period. We can not afford it. and just as before, we are going to be parents.. and that is a responsibility that trumps all else.. as God has put this before us and He says this is our journey now.
I'm ok if my wants never make it to fruition.. JEHOVAH-JIREH ( The Lord will provide)
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Question of the day
What would You do for a Klondike Bar?
Well, I would get in my car. I would drive to the store. I would grab cash from my purse and pay for the ice cream bar.
This Marketing ad drives me crazy. i mean.. really.. why would anyone do anything different for a klondike bar?
Well, I would get in my car. I would drive to the store. I would grab cash from my purse and pay for the ice cream bar.
This Marketing ad drives me crazy. i mean.. really.. why would anyone do anything different for a klondike bar?
Monday, January 12, 2009
My Name is "I AM"
I was regretting the past and fearing the future.
Suddenly my Lord was speaking:
“MY NAME IS I AM”
He paused. I waited. He continued!
“When you live in the past with its mistakes and regrets, it is hard. I AM not there.
My name is not I WAS.
When you live in the future,with its problems and fears, it is hard. I AM not there.
My name is not I WILL BE.
When you live in this momentit is not hard. I AM here.
My name is I AM!”
Suddenly my Lord was speaking:
“MY NAME IS I AM”
He paused. I waited. He continued!
“When you live in the past with its mistakes and regrets, it is hard. I AM not there.
My name is not I WAS.
When you live in the future,with its problems and fears, it is hard. I AM not there.
My name is not I WILL BE.
When you live in this momentit is not hard. I AM here.
My name is I AM!”
Friday, January 9, 2009
It's a Sabotage
you know when you're trying to do something good, and someone else doesnt want to, but they dont want you to succeed either, so they try and sabotage you?? yeah.. this is my day today:
Today: I was drinking my slim fast breakfast
Neighbor lady: wow.. you've been doing really good this week.
Me: Thanks.. im trying. I'm very motivated to lose what I gained last year ( i mean seriously Motivated..i really want to get back where i was! not just for health reasons, but for Matt too!)
Neighbor lady: yeah.. i need to too!
Lunch: Im drinking my second slim fast.
Neighbor lady: good job girl! you rock (she's chomping on chicken teryaki and rice)
me : thanks :) ( i really just want to say, stop watching me!)
An hour later
Neighbor lady comes to my desk with a slice of cheesecake the size of a freaking dinner plate, sets it on my desk and begins to walk away.
Neighbor lady: Sally's Bday cake ! YUM I knew you'd want some! It is So good.. cheat a little today ok.. you've done good, you deserve a cheat treat!!
(mind you, a slice this big is wayyy more than a cheat treat)
Me: no thanks, i really dont want to go there.
I try and hand it back, she wont take it.
Me: I dont want to waste it, maybe you should see if someone else wants it?
Neighbor: no no, everyone is having some and already got a piece.. just nibble on it.. ( i thought I was done with peer pressure!)
Me: ( no words, I just dropped it in my garbage can while she looked on with her mouth open)
Today: I was drinking my slim fast breakfast
Neighbor lady: wow.. you've been doing really good this week.
Me: Thanks.. im trying. I'm very motivated to lose what I gained last year ( i mean seriously Motivated..i really want to get back where i was! not just for health reasons, but for Matt too!)
Neighbor lady: yeah.. i need to too!
Lunch: Im drinking my second slim fast.
Neighbor lady: good job girl! you rock (she's chomping on chicken teryaki and rice)
me : thanks :) ( i really just want to say, stop watching me!)
An hour later
Neighbor lady comes to my desk with a slice of cheesecake the size of a freaking dinner plate, sets it on my desk and begins to walk away.
Neighbor lady: Sally's Bday cake ! YUM I knew you'd want some! It is So good.. cheat a little today ok.. you've done good, you deserve a cheat treat!!
(mind you, a slice this big is wayyy more than a cheat treat)
Me: no thanks, i really dont want to go there.
I try and hand it back, she wont take it.
Me: I dont want to waste it, maybe you should see if someone else wants it?
Neighbor: no no, everyone is having some and already got a piece.. just nibble on it.. ( i thought I was done with peer pressure!)
Me: ( no words, I just dropped it in my garbage can while she looked on with her mouth open)
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Thanksgiving Joke
A young Woman named Kathy received a parrot as a gift.
The parrot had a bad attitude and an even worse vocabulary.
Every word out of the bird's mouth was rude, obnoxious and laced with profanity.
Kathy tried and tried to change the bird's attitude by consistently saying only polite words, playing soft music and anything else she could think of to "clean up" the bird's vocabulary.
Finally, Kathy was fed up and she yelled at the parrot.
The parrot yelled back.
Kathy shook the parrot and the parrot got angrier and even more rude with some of the worst profanity she had ever heard!
In desperation, Kathy threw up her hands, grabbed the bird and put him in the freezer.
For a few minutes the parrot squawked and kicked and screamed.
Then suddenly there was total quiet.
Not a peep was heard for over a minute.
Fearing that she'd hurt the parrot, Kathy quickly opened the door to the freezer.
The parrot calmly stepped out onto Kathy's outstretched arms and said, "I believe I may have offended you with my rude language and actions. I'm sincerely remorseful for my inappropriate transgressions and I fully intend to do everything I can to correct my rude and unforgivable behavior."
Kathy was stunned at the change in the bird's attitude.
As she was about to ask the parrot what had made such a dramatic change in his behavior, the bird continued, "May I ask what the turkey did?"
HAPPY THANKSGIVING........ :-)
The parrot had a bad attitude and an even worse vocabulary.
Every word out of the bird's mouth was rude, obnoxious and laced with profanity.
Kathy tried and tried to change the bird's attitude by consistently saying only polite words, playing soft music and anything else she could think of to "clean up" the bird's vocabulary.
Finally, Kathy was fed up and she yelled at the parrot.
The parrot yelled back.
Kathy shook the parrot and the parrot got angrier and even more rude with some of the worst profanity she had ever heard!
In desperation, Kathy threw up her hands, grabbed the bird and put him in the freezer.
For a few minutes the parrot squawked and kicked and screamed.
Then suddenly there was total quiet.
Not a peep was heard for over a minute.
Fearing that she'd hurt the parrot, Kathy quickly opened the door to the freezer.
The parrot calmly stepped out onto Kathy's outstretched arms and said, "I believe I may have offended you with my rude language and actions. I'm sincerely remorseful for my inappropriate transgressions and I fully intend to do everything I can to correct my rude and unforgivable behavior."
Kathy was stunned at the change in the bird's attitude.
As she was about to ask the parrot what had made such a dramatic change in his behavior, the bird continued, "May I ask what the turkey did?"
HAPPY THANKSGIVING........ :-)
Friday, November 21, 2008
Take a moment
Well, such a strong and kind soul left us today. He will be gracing heaven with our Father. No more pain, or worry. No more cancer. He said he wanted to help the homeless and he lived just long enough to witness the out pouring of care and kindness his wish made come true. Stuff the Truck with food for the homeless ended up stuffing 6 trucks! 85k pounds of food donated in the honor of Brenden Foster. more than 200 ham and cheese and pb and j sandwiches were handed out across Seattle. He saw it all, and thought it was awesome. yesterday was the big Stuff the Truck drive. Brenden was excited to see what would happen, and he did. However, now that his wish came true, he was ready to go. And so Brended went, this morning. I am so touched by this child. My heart aches for his family to lose such a beautiful soul who touched so many, to bring out such compassion and humanity in perfect strangers. How can you love someone you never even met? my heart is sad to lose him today. What a brave and gracious child. I take comfort in knowing he was so collected and peaceful in the last weeks, and understood his time was short. and what did he do with his short time? thought of others. wished for people to help those less fortunate. He has inspired me. He has made me see my worries are small in comparison. My pain is bearable. and to love life while you have it. Which is what he said "my time is coming, but until it comes, im going to have fun" To be peaceful and help others. He said he is going to keep doing good works in Heaven. I think I believe him :)
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